Ungratefulness is the Root of All Evil

My husband says I am never happy. He has been saying this for years and it’s been taken as an insult for years as well. I try my best to accept criticism with an open mind and fall short often, but God really showed me recently that he was right, I am always unhappy.

My husband moved across the state for me. He built a barn for my horses. He lets me be a crazy cat lady. He has done so many countless things to make me happy and there is always that “next best thing” mentality. You could say I’m a bit of a spoiled brat and it’s been a cold snap of reality to realize.

The Bible says that money is the root of all evil which I shall not argue with. I think for each person, they have their one area though, that is the root of evil for them. For me, it’s ungratefulness. And you know what? I know I’m not alone because being grateful is hard work. Think about it, if being genuinely, exuberantly grateful was an easy task, the world would be a lot nicer place. One of my theories is that gratitude is hard to come by because it takes conscious effort.

There seems to be this silent assumption that we only need to be grateful when its obvious. A stranger in line at Starbucks decides to buy your coffee this morning. Of course you are going to be grateful, surprised and hopefully say “thank you!” Are you grateful your car started today so you could go to work? Are you grateful that you weren’t fired or laid off today? We think of these circumstances as extreme, not something we would be grateful for until it isn’t there anymore.

I’m preaching to the choir, because as I said, I’m a spoiled brat more often than not. Working from home and being cooped up in my house for weeks on end with no real human contact has left a lot of room to dwell on these things. Unfortunately it’s also given me plenty of time to focus on what makes me upset, too. And so I realized, this unrest and discontentedness my husband has pointed out, it is true. Discontent is a sneaky joy stealer. I struggle daily to not get caught up in what I don’t have.

What is the root of your evil?

This year, I am aiming to be more grateful and not just when people go out of their way to help me. That is too easy. Gratitude for and contentment for the smaller, everyday things.



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I lead a quiet life as a licensed substance abuse counselor, mountain dweller, homesteader and dreamer of all things 1950’s. Join me on my life’s adventures!